To try and give this context I thought about this
- Blackham School 9 years
- Fairfield Prep 4 years
- RIT 5 years
- Altar Boy 5 years
- Cub Scouts/Boy Scouts 6 years
- Bentley 5 years
- Current house 21 years
- Bridgeport 18 years
- Fatherhood 23 years
- DEC 11 years
- Teradyne 11 years
- Intuit 3.5 years
- Taught Sunday School 14 years
- Constant Contact 3.5 years
Tonight I celebrate 25 years of marriage to Esther. It’s in fact the longest engagement of anything I’ve done. If marriage were only to be a contractual merger of interests, I got the better deal. Esther was the full package when I met her, I was (and still am) a work in progress. I must be getting better due to our 25 year collaboration because I’ve been told that at a minimum I clean up well. 🙂
I’m not going to give anyone specific advice on what you need to do or not do. I will only offer this: It’s not luck, it’s not a game – it’s hard work for both people…sometimes it’s sheer joy and other times its tough disagreements…However, both people have to always assume positive intent, even when you disagree. That is what worked for us. That’s as much as I’ve learned — after that you have to figure it out for yourself.
I’m a very fortunate person to have married my best friend; that makes it easy to enjoy the same stuff (except Science fiction, Lord of the Rings, and British humor… especially Monty Python – NO WAY it ain’t gonna happen).
I’m also so proud of the events of the next two days – our older son is about to graduate from Northeastern with more accolades than proud parents can hope for. I attribute the excellent young men both of our sons have become to her singularly tireless efforts over the years. I had a few kick-saves here and there, but she kept the puck on the other end of the ice always looking for a shot on goal.
I wish you all as much happiness as I have had, and thank God for the blessing of marrying her 25 years ago.